Kids know their gender identity at an incredibly young age

Three kids.They’re telling us. We just have to listen.

Author: Alex Bollinger

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Buck Angel gives advice to trans men at the gynecologist

Buck Angel

Adult film maker and transgender man Buck Angel is giving advice to trans men at the gynecologist.

In the August/September 2018 issue of BUST Magazine, Angel wrote a column outlining the questions every trans man should be asking at the OBGYN.

Buck Angel’s story

‘For me, transitioning meant physically transforming my body from female to male,’ Angel wrote. ‘To finally live my life as the man I had long dreamed of becoming.’

‘At the time, however (this was the early 1990s), even my own doctor told me I was basically a guinea pig. The medical community had no idea what the long-term use of testosterone would do to my genetically female body—especially my reproductive system. When my doctor presented me with paperwork that would absolve him of responsibility should anything go wrong, I signed it. For me, this has always been a matter of life or death.’

‘Unlike some trans men, getting a hysterectomy (or what I call a “his-torectomy”) never felt as urgent to me as top surgery. Don’t get me wrong; I hated getting my period, but taking testosterone took care of that. I was fine with keeping my uterus, ovaries, and vagina intact.’

Mysterious cramps

However, about 11 or 12 years into taking testosterone, Angel began getting very bad cramps.

‘Sometimes they were like bad period cramps. And other times, they’d make me double over in pain for hours,’ he recalls.

‘Finding a gynecologist who would even agree to see me was difficult enough. But actually going to the gyno as a man with a vagina was excruciating. They would give me a pap smear and tell me everything’s fine, that the cramps would eventually stop. But I could read between the lines. They didn’t really know how to treat me. They just kept sending me home.’

But things kept getting worse for Angel. About three years later, he felt a fever coming on after working out. He describes it as a flu-like feeling, and he ended up fainting.

‘My then-partner rushed me to the emergency room with a 101-degree fever and rising. (We were living in Mexico at the time.) Luckily, the doctors admitted me immediately and began treating me without question. They also got to the bottom of my ongoing problems, which were much worse than what my previous gynos thought.’

Reproductive system atrophy

‘As it turned out, the testosterone had atrophied my reproductive system—a condition that could have been prevented by the use of estrogen cream. The atrophy fused my uterus and my cervix together, along with my ovaries and everything else, creating an infection that burst and became septic.’

‘The gynecologists who kept sending me home and telling me nothing was wrong could have prevented this from happening if they knew anything about trans men and testosterone. They could have administered estrogen cream for my vagina. They could have done an ultrasound instead of just a pap smear. They could have tried to figure it out. Basic understanding of hormones could tell you that adding testosterone to a genetically female body will remove estrogen, and estrogen is what makes a vagina function properly. These two simple steps could have prevented a situation like mine.’

Buck Angel’s advice

‘Many trans men have been reaching out to me with the same symptoms that I had. So I’ve begun developing a concrete list of tips on how to get the best care from your gynecologist if you’re trans,’ Angel states.

‘1. First and foremost, before you make an appointment with a new doctor, be sure to ask if they’re versed in trans male healthcare. You need to have a gynecologist who understands and cares about our bodies.

2. During your visit, be sure to tell them that you’re using testosterone and ask when you should start to use an estrogen supplement. If you’ve been using testosterone for more than a year or so, you can ask for an ultrasound in addition to your pap smear for additional information on the health of your reproductive system.

3. Be upfront about your sexual activity and any abnormal pain you’re feeling.

4. And last but not least, if you don’t like your doctor for any reason or feel like they don’t understand or care about the best way to treat you, find a new one! Comprehensive healthcare is your right.’

Anything else?

LGBTI people — especially transgender people — face many hurdles when it comes to getting proper medical care. Some doctors even refuse to treat trans patients at all. Last year, a group of transgender activists penned an open letter to the World Professional Association of Transgender Health urging better training for their doctors.

Author: Rafaella Gunz

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Identical twins share their beautiful story of transitioning together

Identical twins from Georgia

Identical twins Jack and Jace Grafe are sharing their story for the first time about transitioning together.

Born in Georgia, the brothers spoke with Fox5 Atlanta about coming out and then undergoing the journey side-by-side.

‘It’s like being in prison except it’s in your own body,’ Jack said. ‘And the older I got, the harder it was to swallow.  And I was like, can’t do this for the rest of my life, I just can’t do it.’

Now both 23, Jack and Jace initially came out to one another when they were 15.

‘With him there, we had each other’s back,’ Jace said. ‘We looked out for each other.’

The pair attended a private Christian school in a small town in the state. As soon as they left school, they each made some changes to live their lives more authentically. Jace said he immediately cut his hair and wore new clothes.

It was easier with each other. Jace explained: ‘I feel like we’ve saved each other from a lot of really dark and depressing moments.

‘Sometimes, I wonder if he wasn’t here, if I would have been by myself, if I would have had suicidal thoughts. I’m not saying I would have, but it’s very possible. I would have been most definitely alone.’

Numerous studies have shown that transgender youth are more likely to attempt suicide than their straight peers.

At 21, they both began taking hormone injections. Earlier this year, in August, they both underwent top surgery on the same day.

They both now also have driver’s licenses reflecting their gender identity.

‘It’s like the biggest relief you could ever feel,’ Jack said about all the progress they’ve made.

Jace added: ‘I’m just excited to finally go out there and be exactly what I’ve been dreaming about for a long time.’

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