Interracial LGBTI couple emojis are coming to phone screens this year

interracial LGBTI couple emojis

Interracial opposite, same-sex, and non-binary couple emojis have been announced today (5 March).

Unicode is responsible for defining which emojis make onto all platforms, including Apple and Android devices and computers.

In rows of different colored polos, tops and skirts, the couples will be rolled out later this year.

After 50,000 people signed their petition, Tinder successfully campaigned for the new emojis which Unicode will design.

How do the emojis look?

They will be separate emojis altogether, with four combinations of gender and all the various combinations of skintones.

This tallies up to a total of 71 new emoji variations.

Behind Tinder’s campaign, launched last year, was a video featuring an array of LGBTI and heterosexual couples which chalked up nearly 1.5 million views.

CMO of Tinder Jenny Campbell said: ‘The success of our Interracial Couple Emoji campaign shows how powerful the voices are of the more than 50,000 people who joined our cause by signing our petition.

‘Together, we effected change and ensured visual representation for interracial couples around the world.

‘I couldn’t be more proud of this incredibly positive outcome.’

Interracial couple emojis

A small line-up of the 71 couple combinations | Picture: Unicode

This follows last months’ announcement of hand-holding non-binary couple emojis.

Racism within the LGBTI community

Many will welcome the interracial couple emojis, but some feel progress is still far off.

Twitter user Karim spoke to Gay Star News about the visibility of interracial queer couples.

He tweeted earlier this week: ‘Let’s talk about how gays use black men for sex but won’t actually date them.’

Other users voiced their agreement and flooded the thread with pictures of themselves in adorable interracial relationships.

Karim said: ‘I’m glad to know I’m not crazy as more people than I expected agreed with me concerning the issue.’

Racism within the LGBTI community is a big issue, with many queer people of color (QPOC) encountering prejudice on dating apps.

One study concluded apps that allow users to filter ethnicity re-enforce discrimination and increase fetishization of QPOC.

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Author: Josh Milton

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Not everyone meets a life partner, so let’s stop pretending they do

John Teufel on the search for love and a partner

I’ve been talking to a guy on OKCupid for three weeks now. The conversation moves in short, two-text-bubble bursts, the first in direct response to the previous (‘Just a lazy Sunday here too’), the second a light segue (‘Watch any good movies?’).

Usually a day goes by between responses. He seems nice. We’re in discussions about meeting up soon. However, neither of us wanted to suggest last week because it was Valentine’s Day. And then both of us have plans the rest of February. So the goal is March. Let’s aim for March!

Maybe we’ll meet – step one. Step two, we’ll have a good time, and step three, we’ll meet again.

That’s how it goes, sometimes.

Graduating from from first to second date

Often step one never happens and our dating app mating dance was for naught. And of course, the likey-like must be mutual: either of us can tap out any time, no foul.

But sometimes there’s a ‘second date,’ a phrase that has taken on ‘Your biopsy results are in’ levels of meaning now that I’m in my mid-30s.

There have been a lot of second dates, a few thirds and fourths. Not many fifths. And for three years and counting, nobody has hit double digits. One of us taps out. No foul.

This could be how it goes, from here on out. And yes, by out I mean death.

I’m sorry to be dramatic, but let’s do this: I might ‘die alone’.

That cliché that has become our quick go-to for the worst fate, tied with ‘die in a fire.’ (Not mutually exclusive, by the way. Gone with the Wind actress Butterfly McQueen never married, and died in a kerosene fire in her Georgia cottage in 1995.)

For a long time, I lived as though romantic love was a moral law. I believed my friends who p’shawed my worries: ‘Please shut-up. You’ll meet someone. Everyone meets someone!

It’s easy to live like this. Do the work, wait for the result, like baking a cake. The whole world demands we live like this! The logic chain goes:

1) You need love to be happy.

2) Good people should be happy.

3) You are a good person.

4) You will find love.

I internalized those axioms, and I don’t think I’m an idiot or particularly gullible (but willing to hear arguments otherwise).

Dream on

We used to do this about the American Dream, too, but people got hip to the bullshit. ‘Work hard, play by the rules, and it pays off’ – nobody says this anymore. Only when it comes to romance do we abide by this weird notion that, ‘for every lock, there is a key,’ or whatever disgusting cliché haunts your dreams.

We recognize that we’re one missed student loan payment from the gutter, but just be yourself and someone special will climb right down into that gutter with you, you’ll see!

It’s wonderful to be hopeful, even naïvely deluded. And it’s the worst to be bitter. I’ll go back to drinking myself to death before resentment becomes my defining personality feature. But in concrete ways I was fucking myself over for a future that may not exist.

Maybe a lot of us are, even if we are also living, breathing, Tindering, monuments to good intentions.

Am I just unlovable? I at least need to consider the thesis. That said, it’s not very intellectually stimulating to wonder if I’ll die alone because my breath is bad or something. As to larger societal reasons for gay loneliness, others have written about this in breathtakingly insightful ways.

‘Dating: that hell of mundane rejection’

It’s easy to get caught up in what-ifs: what if I had visible abs; what if I lived in a smaller city. The point is that I’m, you know, fine. Few of us are unlovable. (Donald Trump is unlovable.) And I’m willing.

In a perfect world, that would be enough.

There are lots of consequences of living like a Heaven’s Gate member, but waiting for a wedding instead of aliens. For one, the waiting isn’t passive. I am on Tinder. I’m even on weird shit like Hinge and Chappy.

I see credit card charges every month for all the swiping and starring I do. I’m dating: that hell of mundane rejection. Like most of us, I could tell you stories of traumatically bad dates – ugh, the guy who rolled his eyes and said, ‘Well, this should be interesting’ when I told him I don’t drink alcohol.

Those are the micro-consequences. The macro ones are worse. I was putting off living: I’ll take that trip with my awesome future boyfriend. Once I’m in a serious relationship, I’m going to have to switch apartments. Someday my husband, who will definitely exist, and I are going to have to discuss kids!

Not putting off the future in the hope of finding love

Now I’m trying to just live. I took a two-month tour of Europe recently, alone. It was wonderful, and worth all the well-meaning but condescending remarks about how brave I was to go by myself. (It’s Italy, not a police interrogation.)

I started a business, something I could only do because I have no financial obligations to others. Trying to lean in to that lone wolf lifestyle I didn’t choose, and so far, so good.

Understand, I’m not saying I’m better off alone, Alice Deejay, 1997. I see, in the lives of friends, how powerful love can be.

If I do die alone, it’ll be fair to say, Poor John, he never found that special someone. I’m not going to sit here and argue that my mornings eating pastries in Paris were somehow more fulfilling than waking up in the arms of someone who loves me and who I love in return.

I’m missing out – definitely.

Look, when I had to stop drinking, I grieved the loss of alcohol in my life. My father, also in recovery, told me that people who lose an arm probably grieve that loss too, but they deal with it. All the sadness in the world won’t regrow that arm. No booze, no boyfriend, no arm … you adapt.

Ultimately, don’t we all die alone?

None of us are entitled to love. What we can do is move forward secure in that uncertainty, without expectations, demands, or entitlements. Let our married friends pity us, let our mothers wonder what we’re ‘doing wrong’ – that’s on them.

Butterfly McQueen was a trailblazing Hollywood pioneer and an outspoken atheist honored by prominent free-thought societies. Did she die alone? Sure. But in the end, don’t we all?

Follow John on Twitter at @JohnTeufelNYC.

See also

Gay men over 45 far more likely to be single – and these are the reasons why

At what age does a gay man give up looking for love and resign to being single forever?

What’s it like to be in a big age-gap relationship?

Author: John Teufel

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This gay guy talks about finding self-love after the death of his soul mate

Single gay guys share their stories of finding self-love, including finding a way through the grief of losing a soul mate.

In a new video from Grindr’s Into, models Tyler Jacob, Ulysses Leon and Aaron Valenzuela share their thoughts.

From left to right: Ulysses Leon, Aaron Valenzuela and Tyler Jacob

From left to right: Ulysses Leon, Aaron Valenzuela and Tyler Jacob. | Photo: intomore / YouTube

‘I spent the last four years of my life with who I consider my soul mate,’ Jacob revealed in the video. ‘He passed away.’

He continued: ‘Even though it’s the saddest thing and probably the most painful thing that I’ve ever had to go through, I still want to make sure that everybody knows there is life after pain.

‘I say to those out there who may have lost somebody to focus on the good memories,’ he said.

Finding self-love in simple things

Valenzuela then revealed meditation helps him find self-love because it gives him time to reflect.

The guys also say they make sure they eat right, go to the gym, make themselves accountable for the goals they set each day, surround themselves with people they love and loving yourself before you can love others.

What a great message, just before Valetine’s Day!

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Author: James Besanvalle

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