Sperm donor takes fight to stop lesbian couple moving daughter overseas

An Australian man who fathered a child with a lesbian couple has started a legal battle to stop the two women moving overseas with their daughter.

The sperm donor has appeared in the High Court of Australia today (16 April).

The man, referred to as Robert Masson in legal documents, argues he should be considered the legal father because he was involved in the child’s life.

State law v. Commonwealth laws

The case comes down to whether or not state law should apply instead of Commonwealth laws.

According to state law, a sperm donor is not a parent. Under Commonwealth law, however, Masson can be considered as a parent as he’s the biological father and is involved in the child’s life.

In 2006, Masson and Susan Parsons – her court pseudonym – agreed to have a child through artificial insemination.

Documents also proved the lesbian couple have parented a second child who is not related to Masson.

Masson, however, has acted as a parent to the baby girl and her younger sister, providing financial support and care. He also appears as the father on the older girl’s birth certificate.

The sperm donor wasn’t in a relationship with the mother

Things started going sour when Parsons and her wife wanted to move to New Zealand, obviously taking their two daughters with them.

The Guardian reports Masson stopped the lesbian couple through the family court as he was found to be a parent.

The judge’s decision was based on the fact Susan and Margaret could not prove they were in a de-facto relationship at the time of insemination.

Nonetheless, the two women appealed the decision. New South Wales state laws ruled Masson as purely a sperm donor as he and Parsons weren’t in a relationship at the time of conception.

The hearing continues.

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The way these people supported their LGBTI siblings is super heartwarming

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No matter the relationship with your siblings, they’ll always hold a special place in your heart.

Older siblings get to look on with pride as the stupid babies they grew up with become somewhat respectable adults. Younger siblings always have that person who spent their entire childhood tormenting you, but stuck up for you when the going got tough.

When it comes to LGBTI people, though, things can start to get messy.

Homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia is so insidious it can poison even the closest of families. However, some sibling relationships not only survive the onslaught of coming out, but grow even stronger. For National Sibling Day, we’ve compiled stories of siblings being the best they can be to their LGBTI siblings.

Tom and Rob Capon: Easing me out of the closet

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Rob, left and Tom, right

My biggest fear growing up was coming out to my brother. He’s always been my best friend but homophobia is taught to teenagers so early that it’s impossible to tell whether the calling things ‘gay’ as an insult is actually an insult, or an expression of deeply held beliefs. So I kept it a secret until one night. I was 16 and he 19, back from university.

He sat me down to speak about girls and I told him everything I’d done with the bravado of a teenager. The real genders were obviously changed. Then he reveals he heard I was gay from someone in my year at school. I confessed everything. He looked at me, slightly pained, and said: ‘Why didn’t you tell me? You know I’m always going to love you. You’re my brother.’

My brother even said if anyone was homophobic in the family, it would just be me and him against them all. He might be the most annoying person I’ve ever met in my life, but he’s definitely the best brother in the world.

Tom is the Travel Editor and is found on Instagram and Twitter

James and Steven Besanvalle: The gay twin 

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James, left, and Steven, right

The first person I ever came out to as gay was my identical twin brother (before your mind starts racing, he’s straight!). We used to call each other gay as an insult all the time and then one day he called me gay, I just responded: ‘Yeah, I am.’ We spoke about it for hours and he was super supportive, saying nothing’s changed and he’ll always be there for me.

He encouraged me to come out to our parents. He even held my hand when I told them.

James is the Family Editor and is on Instagram and Twitter.

Maddie and Molly Lockett: The coming out sleepover

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Maddie, left, and Molly, right

While lying in the dark on an unbelievably uncomfortable bed on a ferry in the middle of the ocean, my little sister and I were laying awake talking. While debating who was hotter, Drake or Josh, I blurted out: ‘You know that I’m gay right?!’

We lay in silence as the weight of what I’d just said sank in and my heart was beating 1000 miles an hour. She casually replied: ‘Yeah that’s cool… but Josh is defo hotter.’ I remember bursting out laughing and being so relieved, it was the most low key and perfect response she could have given.

Maddie is Creative Partnerships Manager and is found on LinkedIn.

Shannon Power and Sean Marantelli: Sticking up for LGBTI kids 

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Sean, left, and Shannon, right

There’s a pretty big age gap between my brother Sean and I. I had a big hand in raising him and I may or may not be the reason one of his first words was ‘shit’. And soon after, ‘fucken’.

Sean was diagnosed with leukemia at the age of four (don’t worry he’s doing ok now) but used to go on a lot of camps for kids with cancer. At one of the camps, a group of boys kept relentlessly bullying the only gay kid there. That’s until Sean, who was only at primary school age, stepped in to stand up to the bullies.

‘You homophobes are in the minority with your stupid attitudes,’ was one of the classic barbs he threw their way. Needless to say, the bullying stopped and the other kid could get back to enjoying the camp. When I heard what he’d done, my heart filled with such pride that rather than trying to fit in, he knew to do the right thing and stand up for the bullied kid.

He was obviously raised well by a very smart and good looking person.

Shannon is the Health Editor and is on Twitter

Matilda and Ruth Davies: History loving twin

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Matilda, left and Ruth, right

Last year, I got a triangle tattoo on my wrist as a commemoration of my coming out journey. My (very straight) twin sister didn’t recognize it as a queer symbol, so I explained the history very briefly.

The next time I saw her, we were talking about it again and she repeated loads of facts about the LGBTI history of WWII and the significance of the symbol today in the community.

I asked her how she suddenly knew all this info about queer history and she said, after I got the tattoo, she went away and researched it so she could understand its significance to me.

Now we have a running joke that she takes evening classes on queer history.

Matilda is the Creative Partnerships Director and is on Twitter

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NBA player publicly supports 11-year-old son at LGBTI pride

NBA star Dwyane Wade

Though he couldn’t be there in person, NBA player Dwyane Wade made sure his 11-year-old son Zion felt supported at the Miami Beach Pride parade on Sunday (7 April).

Wade, who plays for the Miami Heat, announced he’d be retiring after the 2018-19 season. It was his basketball career that kept him from joining in the Pride festivities, as he had a game in Toronto, but he posted his support on social media.

He first posted a photo on his Instagram stories of Zion and stepmom Gabrielle Union. Wayne captioned the post: ‘We support each other with Pride!’

Dwyane Wade Instagram story of son at Pride

Wade’s post of his son and wife at Miami Pride | Photo: Instagram @dwyanewade

Zion also attended with friends and his siblings, younger sister Kaavia and older brother Zaire, a 17-year-old basketball player who wants to follow in the footsteps of his father.

Wade posted another photo of Zion surrounded by his family and friends. He wrote on the photo: ‘Zion had his on [sic] cheering section today. Wish i was there to see you smile kid!’

Dwyane Wade posts a photo of his son at Pride

Zion with his friends and family | Photo: Instagram @dwyanewade

Many people praised Wade’s support of his son attending an LGBTI pride event.

The importance of parental support

Regardless of how Zion identifies, having the support of his parents, family, and friends in attending an event like Pride is crucial.

Numerous studies have shown that LGBTI youth are more at risk for mental health problems like suicide ideation and suicide attempts, as well as discrimination and bullying.

This is amplified more for LGBTI youth of color.

According to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, 71% of all victims of anti-LGBTI homicides in 2017 were people of color. Of these victims of color, a majority (60%) were black.

Black LGBTI people, especially men, are also at higher risks for being affected by HIV. They further face disproportionate amounts of harassment and experiences with police brutality and misconduct.

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